Checklists: Planning Your Own Funeral Service

Preparing for the funeral service of a loved one is one of the most stressful life events that we face. By planning some of the items in your own service, you can take a part of the stress and pressure off of your family at a very difficult time. This will also bring them peace of mind knowing that they are celebrating your life in exactly the way you would wish.

This Checklist on “Planning Your Own Funeral Service” has a corresponding Essential under the same title. The Essential will give you assistance on how to fill out the Checklist. Together, they will guide you through situations that often occur during a time of loss.


Decisions About the Type of Service

  • I would like to have a traditional funeral service, followed by a burial.
  • I would like to have a traditional funeral service, followed by cremation.
  • I would like to have a traditional religious funeral service, followed by a burial.
  • I would like to have a traditional religious funeral service, followed by cremation.
  • My religious affiliation is:
  • I would like to have only a graveside service, followed by the burial.
  • I would like to have only a service at the crematory, followed by the cremation
  • I would like to have a memorial service following the burial or cremation.
  • I would like to have a funeral service in my own home.
  • I would like to have a viewing before my funeral.
  • I would like to have a wake before my funeral.
  • I would like to have a visitation before my funeral.
  • I would like to have a reception after my funeral.

 

I would like to have a portion of the service honoring my military service.

  • My military branch was:
  • The post commander is:
  • You can reach the commander at:

I would like the funeral to be held at:

  • The funeral director’s name is:
  • The contact number for the funeral director is:
  • I have/have not prearranged details for the casket with these people.
  • I would like my final resting place to be:
  • I have/have not prearranged details for the final resting place with these people.
  • The contact number is:

Decisions About the People Involved in the Service

  • The person I would like to officiate the funeral is:
  • My second choice would be:
  • I would like these people to serve as pallbearers:
  • I would like the following people to deliver eulogies:
  • I would like the following people to be involved by delivering prayers, poems or other readings:
  • I would like these verses or readings to be delivered:
  • I would like these pieces of music to be played or sung:

Rather than sending flowers, I would like people to honor my memory by making a donation to one of my favorite charities: