There are many things to decide upon and keep track of. We have compiled this list to help you prepare for a shiva. Create a personalized checklist by checking the relevant boxes below. You can then email this checklist to yourself, family and friends or download a PDF version to print out and keep. Time and Place Decide where, when, and what times you will sit shiva. Note any special times that will be reserved for only close family, and those times that will be open to all visitors. Planning and AssistanceIdentify people to help you with any planning item. For example: Coordinate with friends and family. Set up and prepare the shiva house. Receive deliveries at the shiva house while the family is at the cemetery. Coordinate meals for the family through shiva and the following weeks. Clean the house before and after. The Shiva House Set up tables and chairs, food and beverages. Consider having a sign-in book and pens for guests. Put away any highly delicate or breakable items in the house. The home should have ample supply of paper towels, tissues, toilet paper, and garbage bags. Consider parking arrangement for guests. Alert neighbors and the local police that there will be cars parked in observance during the days you hold shiva. Food and MealsThose helping you to coordinate should consider: Food for the family and guests both during and after the shiva. Order from local providers or coordinate to have food cooked by friends. Serving items for the food, including: Trays, chaffing dishes, plates, napkins, cups, silverware, etc. Containers for leftover food. Identify where to donate leftover food and who will take it there. Service PersonnelUnless friends will be performing these duties, hire service personnel for: Clean the house before and after shiva. Religious TraditionsAs you choose to observe them. Obtain and light candles for the shiva house upon returning from the cemetery. Cover mirrors. Consider providing slippers or non-leather shoes for mourners. Have prayer books and Yarmulkes for those who wish to use them. Have low chairs, stools or wooden boxes for mourners to sit on. Place a water pitcher, water collection bowl, and paper towels outside the front door for use upon return from the cemetery. Set up tables and chairs. Serve and clean during the shiva. Personal Matters Notify your employer of your loss and arrange schedule. Cancel or reschedule any doctor or other important appointments for yourself and your family. Service and Clergy Coordinate with your temple, rabbi, or other chosen clergy to perform a service at the shiva house. If you will not have clergy leading the service, consider who will lead. Consider if there is a need for a formal minyan at the service. Sending your ChecklistMessageAdd here any notes or a message that you would like to add after this checklist. Your NamePlease add your name to indicate yourself as an author of this checklist when sharing with others.Email*Please provide your e-mail so you can receive an easily shareable copy of this checklist Please indicate my own email address as contact for questions or messages of sympathy. I would like send this list to someone else. Additional RecipientThis allows you to send a copy directly to someone else when submitting this form–you will already get your checklist via e-mail which you can later share with others.Recipients Name*Recipient's Email* PhoneThis field is for validation purposes and should be left unchanged.