Grief is real, regardless of the circumstance. Even dealing with the loss from a death by natural causes has unique factors and emotions that must be handled in order for true healing to take place. Ultimately, the person grieving must come to rest that nothing more could be done and that some of the questions surrounding the death may never be answered.
Trying to offer the right words of condolence and support following the death of a friend or loved one is always a difficult task. But attempting to provide comfort to one grieving a loss under a special circumstance is exponentially more challenging. One should first and foremost be reminded of the stages of grief that have been discussed by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and others.