Expressing Condolences

It is difficult to know what to say or do when someone that you care about has suffered the loss of a loved one and is grieving. During these times, a letter of condolence can provide a meaningful source of comfort to the bereaved.

Communicating condolences is not an easy task. Meeting someone face to face is an emotional experience that can leave us feeling drained. We also may not know the right words to say on the spot. It seems it would be much easier to text or email our sorrow – quickly and with less emotion. Is it appropriate to express condolences through text, email or instant messaging?

Messages of condolence can be very difficult to construct. The following examples may give you guidance and structure as you put together your text.

Let your words be true, not trite. Start with words from your own heart. Genuinely offer words that express the sorrow that you feel for the loss. Encourage the person with your presence. Offer words that assure that you will be there beyond the moments at the funeral home. Don’t say words that everyone says – let them be as unique as your relationship.

Words of comfort. There are times when we all need them. There are times when we all need to say them.

Something as personal as a condolence message is not always easy to craft. Expressing sincere sympathies in an appropriate and comforting way can be difficult.

It’s never easy talking to people after they’ve lost loved a one. Without question, it can be an awkward, sad and uncomfortable situation. But communicating after a loss is a skill that can be learned. There are ways to handle such circumstances in a sensitive and meaningful way.

Most people are worried about what they will say to someone who has suffered the loss of a loved one. The truth is their listening skills may be far more important.

The words we choose to use to someone who is grieving the loss of a loved one is as equally delicate as those in an international summit or those used in saving a marriage. The lack of words or the use of insensitive ones will be remembered for years. The once firm relationship can emerge irreparably damaged. Are there any guidelines that can help us avoid the mine-field of thoughtless words? Are there tips that will help us choose words carefully?

When a friend suffers the loss of a loved one, we always have a difficult time trying to find the proper way to express our concern and compassion.